This is the method to my madness. I believe in the 8 seasons and unlearning everything from the past. Let it go and accept the things that used to make you happy and trade them in for your DREAMS that will complete you.
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less is more
Often times we say too much or give too much and receive too little. Mix it up and give less and see how much MORE you get back in return.
Less Bullshitting = More Reality
Less Lies = More Truth
Less Fighting = More Winning
Less Assumptions = More Clarity
Less Gametime = More Playtime
I know this pretty much a NO-BRAINIER.. but still I had to go there. For some reason the MORE you think something is common sense...
The LESS common it is.
So the real deal is we have to stop expecting more than we give and start giving less of the garbage that doesn't bring MORE to the table. WORK ...HOME and in everyday relationships. We've just
got to do better. Because
everything is everything.
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CONNECTION
Okay.... Here's the thing about connection. Everything needs a beginning and an ending. Combined with a full time occupation of attempting to find the right puzzle pieces on your way. You know finding all the missing piece to CONNECT with. By pieces I mean the right career FIT, perfect FIT for a spouse, nurturing our childern to FIT in, and connecting with friends and family along the way.
I have moved over 17 times and have become a master at being open to connect. As a child I have too many memories of playing out the scene from "The Color Purple". You know, there I am, in the the backseat waving and tears rolling down sing and patty-cake hand motions of "... You and Me Us NEVA-PART..." Of course that is a bit of an exaggeration (smile) but you get the picture. I shared that scenario to say that I have always been able to CONNECT with people since a child. I had to relive being the NEW KID more than my fair share. But it's not easy for everyone to connect with people. So some folks tend to stay in the same circle of friends or only deal with neighbors and family for security. Which is cool if you never plan on leaving that 50 mile radius. I'm just saying. That is so not me. My free spirit can't comprehend that confinement. So I fly free. Connection is not something that "BOOM" just happens, it's a feeling. (kinda like Sexy... either you are or you are NOT no "Bringing it back" sorry JT) It's more like a super power emotion and you have to be willing to let your guard down to survive to save the world.
The most important thing is having the ability and desire to CONNECT with others. But you have to be open to sharing yourself to do so. You have to be willing to let someone know who you are inside your heart, mind and soul. I left Body out on purpose. We tend to give that away selfishly reguardless of FIT or Connection {wink}. Being attractive, funny or having a great personality can make you popular, this is true. But life is so short to live it just to say you KNOW a lot of people. True CONNECTION lies with those paths you have crosss that can say they KNOW (the real) YOU.
Open your heart and connect with the important people in your life. They are there for a reason.
Life is All for you.
As Janet says....
"if you really want it... if you say you need it.... if you gotta have it! Go ahead and get you some!"
Your life is waiting for you to live it. don't be afraid to open your Heart, Spirit and Soul and Love ..
It's All For You!
xoxo
Nina
GROUNDED
ARE YOU?
OR are you? Used to be a time when being grounded meant being in trouble and forced to relinquish your privileges. Actually today I am grounding myself permanently. Time out...
is not enough anymore.
I was ok with telling myself that I will take some "Time Out" and get this or that done. Or I would fly around the house and plan to take "TIME OUT" to clean or organize. Even in the work place you know exactly what you have to do to be successful and it only works if you sit down and get "Grounded" But we tend to get grounded at work because you have to make money and needless to say you don't want to get fired. I think at times you may need to light a fire within your self. You have to get grounded from with in because getting fired from LIFE is not an option.
Side Note: That means being IN the GROUND ...a entirely different ceremony completely. Everyone wears black and there's a lot of crying. SO lets NOT go there.
All it takes is a little dedication and a lot of patience. Being grounded for adults means being forced to relinquish wants for needs. You really have to have desire and drive to ensure that your life is making you happy. No one else can do this for you. So at some point today for lack of better words and to hopefully make an impact ...
"GET SOME WHERE AND SIT YOUR ASS DOWN!"
Time to get grounded from with in and start planning for happiness and STOP flying around missing all the little things you
never made "TIME OUT" for. From friends family house and with in. Live your life being Grounded from with in. See how much you will grow.
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Real straight talk
Do you ever rack your brain trying to figure why NO ONE understands you? Do you walk away or hang up the phone feeling that you were perfectly clear in your communication. You are feeling all proud and sure of yourself then BOOM... 3 minutes later that the person you were just having a conversation calls you right back and guess what? They had not a clue of what you meant and then you have to re(re)Explain. This used to happen to me all of the time. I used always ask "Really? I KNOW you didn't get THAT from what I just said?" complete disconnect. "I'd scrunch my fore-head and roll my eyes, thinking... "Clearly I must be speaking a foreign language to you.."
Miscommunication like that would often ruin my day.
Truth is when dealing with people who say they "keep it real" often just means that they don't have a sensor. Where the kind hearted folks often tend to be sugar coaters. You know... filtering the blow with extra sweet words and thoughtfulness. Now which ever way you are is fine. I just think that in terms of being better at communicating with ALL types of personalities it's best to understand the type of person you are dealing with.
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REAL FOLKS
Just because you "keep it REAL" you do NOT get free pass to be an ASS
(& that's real)
if you can dish it out... then suck it up when someone gives it back.
(real folks are extra sensative)
real sweet folks
Just because you have others Best intrest at heart..Does NOT mean they give a DAMN about yours.
(mix your sweet with a shot of sour)
You will be disappointed every time if you still beleive in "treat people the way you want
to be treated"
(real sweet folks live in LA-LA Land)
~
I would tell you what side I fall under but I'm sure you can guess that. Communication is the key to everyday life. Learning to be a better communicator does not mean that you are NOT "keeping it REAL" and have any potential of loosing any Cool Points (throwback). And to my fellow Real Sweet Folks it's ok to act a fool every now and then. Plus it will shock
the shit out of everyone!
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I woke up and told myself that today I will SHINE. Have you ever put any thought into how bright you SHINE? It totally depends on the day for me sometimes. We all have those mornings when the covers are unbelievably cozy and it is infuriating to have to pull them off. (if you just had a twinge thinking about it your KNOW exactly what I mean) It kinda reminds me of when people used to say "did you wake up on the WRONG side of the bed?" (never really understood that lol) But anyhoo...today I have decided to SHINE. Now just so you know on the inside my emotions are at a medium-low simmer and PMS is setting so I could choose to lay on the couch and cry over the winner on HGTV's Design Star. BUT!! Not today!! There is too much work to be done.
I love this song by Estelle. "I'ma shine! I'ma shine! I'ma shine while my lights on!" So please press play and turn it up. Every day we have woe's and stress but you have to choose to get up on the RIGHT side of the bed and face the world. Regardless of what's going on in your life today you have to shine! So put your mind to it and over come every obstacle that comes your way and plan for success, that's the only way to shine!
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WORDS
by Nina
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Fear no more...
So for what ever reason, people are afraid of being afraid. Now when you get to the nitty gritty of it all FEAR is trapping you from the happiness that you deserve. At some point you have to realize that you are pretty much just afraid of your self and the potential with in yourself. "How is that possible?" and "What the Hell is she talking about?" may be just a few questions running through your head (or mumbled to the screen) It is possible to let fear consume you and keep you from achieving your ultimate goals in life.
So this week's challenge is to do something every day that is outside of your comfort zone. "Like what?" you may ask. Well let see... write down a list of 5 things that you wish you had the courage to do. For example... Fear often keeps me from striking up a conversation with random people. This week I am going to be more out going. Or maybe if you are afraid of being alone perhaps you go to dinner by yourself. Even take this challenge to your workplace. If you need to have more courage and make your opinion know then NOW is the time.
Stop waisting time repeating yesterday and make a change for tomorrow.
Please enjoy this song by Mary J Blige. The movie "THE HELP" was about fighting the fear inside and standing up for who you are. Fear during those times had a very different meaning. But in today's world we have to keep pushing and never settle for less that what you deserve in life. You only get one life so live it. Be free of fear and be the living proof that changing your thought process and letting go of the CANT'S and strive for what you can DO!
by Nina
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This is only the beginning of changing your life.
The 8 Seasons will allow you to place on foot in front of the other as you walk away from disappointment and fear and make your way to happiness. Thanks so much for reading and supporting CREATIVE VIBES.
INFINITY is the final Season. No ceilings!!
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LIFE
Tell me... Are you happy with your life? I mean everyone has things that they would change OR do over. But today... right now are you happy with your LIFE?
Truth is your life is who you are today. You can't change the past. There will always be something that will remind you of where you've been. For example, past relationships, high an low point of your career and of course memories of family traditions. These are the things that make you who you are. Through experience.
LIFE is the 7th Season and this is what it is all about. No matter what it is that you are working towards you have to CHOOSE happiness and peace in order to make an effective change in your life. There will come a time when you will be forced to adjust your attitude. Well guess I shouldn't say "forced" , but you do need to WANT to change. This attitudinal adjustment will truly allow you to enjoy life. Think about it, Times get hard and you won't always have the answers. I want to encourage you to choose a LIFE without anger and disappointment. I see too many people lugging all that negative energy everywhere they go (even with a smile you can spread negative energy). So think about that today and every time your mind shifts to Negative you have make it positive.
8 SEASONS - life 7
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Ok say it with me... Today I WILL be happy! Today I WILL be successfully!! TODAY I WILL choose to LIVE my life and be the best that I can be. TODAY I WILL SMILE!!
Cant tell you enough how important it is to be still and let your mind and soul be at peace. I have come along way and it used to be impossible for me to be still. But I tell you what.... once you do... your world will change.
You must take time to de-stress your life and seriously have some ME time. I know that this is not always easy for everyone and life is busy. But believe me... once you take just 15 minutes and schedule a "HAPPY HOUR" with yourself... you will be able to handle stress and let things go that you just really can't control. Do this for yourself! Then do it again everyday. LIFE IS TOO SHORT (I hate when people say that) but it's even shorter if you take everything soooo seriously.
Gotta go... time for "HAPPY HOUR" cheers!!
xoxo
Nina
did someone say HAPPY HOUR??
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BELIEVE
THE HARDEST PART YET... BUT OH SO SIMPLE
by Nina
8 SEASONS - Believe 6
You may be wondering why this is the hardest part yet. So lets dig in. You've had the grand epiphany and set the goal of how to change your life. Now that you've overcome the everyday insanity of running in circles you can actually breathe. Aren't you glad you've let go and stopped looking for confirmation and started saying YES not can't everyday.? YES!! At this point recognizing that the best is yet to come you can finally start to BELIEVE. The challenge in this season is learning to be consistent. Easier said than done I know. So be strong! You can't let obstacles distract you from reaching your goal. Stay focused an Believe the best that is yet to come. Because it is coming!
So start celebrating! Surround yourself with great friends and family that will continue to support your dreams. Keep in mind that some of the NON-Believers will stray away during this time. But this doesn't mean that they don't care. Believe me, they will be back when they can see progress.
(some people just can't see your vision until you bring it to life)
So guess this is just what you have to do!
SHOW the world what makes you YOU and
Don't stop Believing!
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SOUP FOR A CLOUDY DAY
Cloudy day bluez... well fear no more! I am a starving artist so I have really been on a budget. I made this fantastic soup today and thought I'd share it with ya'll (in my Paula Dean voice) Anyhoo... I picked up this bag of Cheddar Broccoli Soup when I was at the grocery store this week (maybe $4). I made a amazing chicken enchilada burrito this week and had rice and black beans left over. So guess what's going in the soup?? You guessed it! BOTH steamed white rice (boil in bag $3 for box of 4) and can off Black Beans (.89) I seasoned and grilled one of the 4 chicken breast and added it to the party. I used my crock pot but stove top is fine. Just felt like I was doing something special but letting it cook in the crock pot. (Oh-yea) lol I added white queso cheese and sour cream. Let me just say I did the kidNplay dance all by myself (if you are unfamiliar with this dance then imagine the chicken dance for kicks and giggles) I call it.... Cheddar Broccoli Chicken Casserole SOUP!
by Nina
"the point you let go...
and stop looking
for confirmation from
everyone...
will be when you finally
believe in yourself....
YOU are in CONTROL!"
8 SEASONS - Recognize 5
Listen to this... Do you constantly look to others for approval? Or perhaps you just expect people to care and see things the way that you do? Well I'm sure you know this, but you will never be able to please everyone. Even though you may be nodding your head reading this, thinking "duh! Who doesn't know that?!" I will have you know that the grouchiest most angry people are guilty of this. Why do you think they are always frowning. Because they spend most of their time thinking that they know everything. So they are mad at the world because they have tried to please everyone and continue running into the same obstacles. A lot of their anger and dissatisfaction comes from attempting to get approval and failing.
The day you let go and stop looking for conformation from everyone, will be the day you start believing in yourself. Once you realize that YOU are in control...the sky is the limit. Or As I like to say
NO CEILINGS!
The Key to all of this is simply controlling ONLY the things you can truly control. Lets say you run a business and have managers that just don't get it and are not supporting you. Being a Leader means putting on your big drawers (that's what we say in the South means "Man Up") and start training and developing your team. At times you may have to regroup and get NEW people who will support you. But you have to make that choice. You can run around doing everything on your own OR your can build your team to support you and do things BETTER than you could on you own. By the way...this goes for personal home life as well reread and insert Husband/Wife for managers. Except for the get NEW part... don't give up you're love. Often the tools we use to make us better people can have duel purposes. (DIG THAT?!)Get focused and do everything you can, to make the results that you want happen. Happiness and satisfaction are the results of good choices, Positive communication and patience. And trusting that God is living in you. So stop being that grouchy person that ruins everyone's day and RECOGNIZE you are in control!
I love to bring music into to play when encouraging others to live a happy life. So enjoy Katy Perry's song "Firework"
by Nina
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